31 Days of All Things Children: Day 2

It’s Day 2 of the Nester’s 31 Day Challenge, and I’m still here! 🙂PS this post may have TMI, so please forgive
Today I want to talk about the beginning- the time when you’re trying to have a baby. Unlike many of the women in my extended family, I didn’t get pregnant the first month I tried for our first baby. I found out when I was 23 that I have polycystic ovarian syndrome, (you can read more about my diagnosis here) which I am convinced is a name someone invented to cover all sorts of female problems. 🙂 That is also right when we started trying.
Anyway, it’s hard to tell since I am about to have my 4th baby, but it took us well over a year to conceive our first born, and right at a year to get pregnant with the third child. I know this doesn’t mean a lot to those of you who have been trying for years and years, and my heart really goes out to you. I am praying for you right now.
There are a few things I learned during this time I’d like to share:
1.) See a doctorNow this might seem like a no-brainer, but I had problems for almost a year before I saw an OB/GYN. Within days my immediate problems were fixed, and within five months, I was pregnant. I know that not everyone’s problems are fixed as simply as this, but sometimes they are. I wish I had gone sooner- it would have been a much better year for me!
2.) Find a support systemNot everyone wants to share their infertility problems with the world- I totally get that. But it is so helpful to find at least a few good friends to share with and encourage you. It can be especially helpful if they have been through infertility as well, but that’s not necessary. When you have bad days, it is vital to have people in your corner to cry with you. And hopefully, they’ll end up celebrating with you at some point as well!
3.) Don’t blame your spouseNo matter the reason for the infertility, it is very important that you and your husband are a team during this time. Blaming one other will only exacerbate the problem.
4.) Spend fun time with your spouse Infertility can easily take the front seat of all conversations, but take time to enjoy each other. Do things you did while dating- just take a break from the stress when you need it.
5.) Get as healthy as possibleIt turns out that all I needed to do was follow a low-sugar diet in order to conceive. (all part of the PCOS, and it’s worked all 4 times for me) The fix won’t be that simple for everyone, but getting healthy will make your pregnancy easier once you do conceive.

If you have struggled with infertility, what would you add to this list?

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31 Days of All Things Children: Day 2

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